From childhood onwards, females are encouraged into subservient roles, so that taking the lead can feel strange and unnatural, even "unfeminine" and "not nice." We are discouraged from aggressively grabbing what we want, and instead encouraged to sacrifice and nurture. We are taught to be prizes, not competitors. Surely, there has to be more to life than that. Many men - the ones who value assertiveness (and even a little cruelty) in their female lovers would agree. So would many women. If you're one of these women, or if your man is one of those men, then this book could be just what you and he have been searching for.