Conquer Me: A Girl to Girl Guide About Submission

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Submissive women have needs just like anybody else. But how can a woman get her needs met when she's relinquished her power to her dominant partner?

With warmth, wisdom and a down-to-earth approach, experienced submissive Kacie Cunningham analyzes the realities of the dominant-submissive lifestyle and suggests ways in which both partners can experience the greatest possible growth and pleasure. At the heart of the book is an emotion Kacie has dubbed "Conquer Me" -- which she defines as "the submissive's internal demand for a show of strength." Without a clear understanding of "conquer me," both submissive and dominant may find themselves at odds -- either fighting unhappily, or watching the passion ebb from their relationship.

This book explains this unique need and how to get it met -- essential knowledge for any submissive or couple who wants to get the most out of their D/s lifestyle.

About the Author:

Kacie Cunningham had her first real experience with kink when she was 18 years old, and has spent the last decade searching out better and safer ways of doing it. Some of her favorite non-kinky things to do are read, sew, knit, and bake, and she spends much of her time writing, loving, and laughing. At the time of publication, she has been with her Master for four years, and they live in Indianapolis, with their two dogs and two fish. They hope to one day find the perfect submissive girl to add to their family, but they aren't looking.

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coverPaperback
pages192 pages

safety guide

Kink Safety Guide

Whether you’re new to kink, or starting again with someone new, it’s always a good idea to refresh the basics. Here’s a guide to keep your tools clean, so your talk can be dirty. And your practice safe, so you can play hard. If you have any further questions or queries (ie choosing your tools of punishment), feel free to contact us in-store.

This is only a general guide. Its purpose is to demonstrate the level of caution and consideration that should be exercised when engaging in heavier forms of play. This guide should not be referred to as a go-to resource. There are many forms of play that fall under the kink/BDSM umbrella and it is best to locate a resource that is able to provide in-depth information regarding best practice in that particular area of play.


Consent

All sexual activity must only take place on the grounds that 100% consent has been given by all parties involved.  Consent is an informed, uncoerced, enthusiastic, revocable permission for something to happen. Consent can be withdrawn, by any party, at any time during the activity. Consent can only legally be given between adults of the age of consent or greater.


Safeword
 

When engaging in BDSM activities it is considered good practice to nominate and agree on a safeword for use between yourself and your partner/s. A safeword is a code word, or series of code words, used to communicate to your partner that you are reaching a limit or you wish to stop play immediately.

Often, nominated safe words are: 

  • Words that would not be regularly used during play

  • A series of words that communicate varying degrees (e.g. green, yellow, red may be used to communicate ‘I’m fine’, ‘I’m reaching my limit’ or ‘stop play’)

It is up to you and your partner/s to outline which words you use and discuss in detail what each word will be used to indicate.

Don’t forget to select a nonverbal option for play that involves gags or anything that limits vocalisation. If you’re the dom, pay attention to your subs positive and negative subtle gestures.


Bondage and Restraint

If you’re practicing restraint during your play sessions, common sense and communication is key.

Keep in mind:

  • Certain positions can very quickly become uncomfortable and interfere with circulation (e.g. arms restrained above the head).

  • It is important to use the right gear to restrain your partner. Often people like to improvise or use less threatening methods of restraint (e.g. a silk scarf or a pair of stockings). This can be dangerous as certain materials tend to pull quite tight, are difficult to un-knot and can lead to the pinching of nerves. Bondage rope is always the best option - with the correct bondage knots.

  • If you’re experiencing any tingling, numbness or coldness communicate this to your partner and have them loosen the restraint or reposition you. This may indicate a pinched nerve or that your circulation is being cut off.

  • Have rope cutters or bandage scissors on hand incase your partner needs to be cut loose in a hurry.

  • Do not cover the mouth and nose while restrained. If gagged, make sure the nose is uncovered.

  • Never leave someone who is restrained alone for any period of time, for any reason.


Impact Play

When experimenting with flogging, caning, paddling or spanking it is important to be informed as to which parts of the body are safe for hitting and which are not.

First, if flogging, invest in a quality flogger. Cheap floggers tend to be stiff and have hard edges, leading to an experience more painful than pleasurable and possible injury. A quality flogger will have soft lashes and rounded edges.

In the case of floggers, opt for shorter tails to begin with so you have more control. Remember building impact can be more effective than going too hard too soon.

When paddling or spanking avoid the kidneys, lower back, neck and the joints. Never strike anyone in the face or neck area with any object.

Safe areas include the buttocks, thighs and upper back.

Consider the position the receiver is in. Note that positions stretching out major muscles (e.g. bent over) leave the receiver more vulnerable and with a lower pain threshold.

 
Hygiene

Investing in good quality gear will ensure not only more pleasurable play, but safer play. Look for toys that are non-porous. Medical and food grade silicone, metal and glass toys are the safest choice when it comes to avoiding bacteria growth and the entrapment of bodily fluids in and on toys.

Practice thorough cleaning and sterilisation techniques, especially for items shared between multiple partners.

Any penetrable items shared between partners should have a condom applied before use.

Be mindful of articles that are absorbent (e.g. leather, rope etc.)  and be sure to practice proper sterilisation techniques. 

Maintain personal hygiene and a clean play environment.

Seek medical advice in the instance of suspected contamination.

delivery & returns

Orders delivered to Australian addresses are charged according to delivery type. All orders over $150 are delivered free of charge via Regular Parcel Post.

If your parcel is to be sent to your workplace you must specify the business name in your shipping address as Australia Post will not deliver to business addresses without a business name.

For orders in Australia under $150 shipping is charged according to delivery type

description

features

safety guide

delivery & returns

Submissive women have needs just like anybody else. But how can a woman get her needs met when she's relinquished her power to her dominant partner?

With warmth, wisdom and a down-to-earth approach, experienced submissive Kacie Cunningham analyzes the realities of the dominant-submissive lifestyle and suggests ways in which both partners can experience the greatest possible growth and pleasure. At the heart of the book is an emotion Kacie has dubbed "Conquer Me" -- which she defines as "the submissive's internal demand for a show of strength." Without a clear understanding of "conquer me," both submissive and dominant may find themselves at odds -- either fighting unhappily, or watching the passion ebb from their relationship.

This book explains this unique need and how to get it met -- essential knowledge for any submissive or couple who wants to get the most out of their D/s lifestyle.

About the Author:

Kacie Cunningham had her first real experience with kink when she was 18 years old, and has spent the last decade searching out better and safer ways of doing it. Some of her favorite non-kinky things to do are read, sew, knit, and bake, and she spends much of her time writing, loving, and laughing. At the time of publication, she has been with her Master for four years, and they live in Indianapolis, with their two dogs and two fish. They hope to one day find the perfect submissive girl to add to their family, but they aren't looking.

coverPaperback
pages192 pages

Kink Safety Guide

Whether you’re new to kink, or starting again with someone new, it’s always a good idea to refresh the basics. Here’s a guide to keep your tools clean, so your talk can be dirty. And your practice safe, so you can play hard. If you have any further questions or queries (ie choosing your tools of punishment), feel free to contact us in-store.

This is only a general guide. Its purpose is to demonstrate the level of caution and consideration that should be exercised when engaging in heavier forms of play. This guide should not be referred to as a go-to resource. There are many forms of play that fall under the kink/BDSM umbrella and it is best to locate a resource that is able to provide in-depth information regarding best practice in that particular area of play.


Consent

All sexual activity must only take place on the grounds that 100% consent has been given by all parties involved.  Consent is an informed, uncoerced, enthusiastic, revocable permission for something to happen. Consent can be withdrawn, by any party, at any time during the activity. Consent can only legally be given between adults of the age of consent or greater.


Safeword
 

When engaging in BDSM activities it is considered good practice to nominate and agree on a safeword for use between yourself and your partner/s. A safeword is a code word, or series of code words, used to communicate to your partner that you are reaching a limit or you wish to stop play immediately.

Often, nominated safe words are: 

  • Words that would not be regularly used during play

  • A series of words that communicate varying degrees (e.g. green, yellow, red may be used to communicate ‘I’m fine’, ‘I’m reaching my limit’ or ‘stop play’)

It is up to you and your partner/s to outline which words you use and discuss in detail what each word will be used to indicate.

Don’t forget to select a nonverbal option for play that involves gags or anything that limits vocalisation. If you’re the dom, pay attention to your subs positive and negative subtle gestures.


Bondage and Restraint

If you’re practicing restraint during your play sessions, common sense and communication is key.

Keep in mind:

  • Certain positions can very quickly become uncomfortable and interfere with circulation (e.g. arms restrained above the head).

  • It is important to use the right gear to restrain your partner. Often people like to improvise or use less threatening methods of restraint (e.g. a silk scarf or a pair of stockings). This can be dangerous as certain materials tend to pull quite tight, are difficult to un-knot and can lead to the pinching of nerves. Bondage rope is always the best option - with the correct bondage knots.

  • If you’re experiencing any tingling, numbness or coldness communicate this to your partner and have them loosen the restraint or reposition you. This may indicate a pinched nerve or that your circulation is being cut off.

  • Have rope cutters or bandage scissors on hand incase your partner needs to be cut loose in a hurry.

  • Do not cover the mouth and nose while restrained. If gagged, make sure the nose is uncovered.

  • Never leave someone who is restrained alone for any period of time, for any reason.


Impact Play

When experimenting with flogging, caning, paddling or spanking it is important to be informed as to which parts of the body are safe for hitting and which are not.

First, if flogging, invest in a quality flogger. Cheap floggers tend to be stiff and have hard edges, leading to an experience more painful than pleasurable and possible injury. A quality flogger will have soft lashes and rounded edges.

In the case of floggers, opt for shorter tails to begin with so you have more control. Remember building impact can be more effective than going too hard too soon.

When paddling or spanking avoid the kidneys, lower back, neck and the joints. Never strike anyone in the face or neck area with any object.

Safe areas include the buttocks, thighs and upper back.

Consider the position the receiver is in. Note that positions stretching out major muscles (e.g. bent over) leave the receiver more vulnerable and with a lower pain threshold.

 
Hygiene

Investing in good quality gear will ensure not only more pleasurable play, but safer play. Look for toys that are non-porous. Medical and food grade silicone, metal and glass toys are the safest choice when it comes to avoiding bacteria growth and the entrapment of bodily fluids in and on toys.

Practice thorough cleaning and sterilisation techniques, especially for items shared between multiple partners.

Any penetrable items shared between partners should have a condom applied before use.

Be mindful of articles that are absorbent (e.g. leather, rope etc.)  and be sure to practice proper sterilisation techniques. 

Maintain personal hygiene and a clean play environment.

Seek medical advice in the instance of suspected contamination.

Orders delivered to Australian addresses are charged according to delivery type. All orders over $150 are delivered free of charge via Regular Parcel Post.

If your parcel is to be sent to your workplace you must specify the business name in your shipping address as Australia Post will not deliver to business addresses without a business name.

For orders in Australia under $150 shipping is charged according to delivery type

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