Pleasure starts in the brain. Sure, masturbation involves touch, but your emotions, mindset, and environment all play a huge role in how much pleasure you actually feel.
This guide is all about helping you claim your desires, break down barriers, and create a solo sex practice that’s as satisfying as it is intentional.
Set a Pleasure Intention ✨
2026 is the year to show up for yourself. Setting a pleasure intention isn’t about schedules or pressure — it’s about noticing what excites you, giving yourself permission to seek it out, and carving out time for it. Think about what lights you up, then make space for it. Small intentional moments add up, building a more confident, playful, and fulfilling sex life.
Create your Pleasure Zone 🫦
Your environment can transform solo play into something ritualistic and indulgent.
Engage your senses and make your space feel irresistible:
Sight: Mood lighting, candles, or even mirrors can awaken your senses and make your space feel luxurious.
Smell: Scents can be surprisingly powerful. Think candles, incense, oil diffusers — or even letting the aroma of a favorite meal linger in the air.
Touch: Invest in what feels good — silky sheets, plush pillows, soft throws. Explore textures that excite you.
Sound: Music sets the pace. Curate a playlist that gets you in the mood, whether you want something sensual, upbeat, or low-key.
Invest in Your Pleasure 🌹
Owning sex toys is one of the simplest ways to invest in yourself. They’re designed to make you feel incredible, explore new sensations, and help you connect with your body in ways your imagination alone can’t. Leave them somewhere visible — even a little scandalous — to remind you to prioritise your Pleasure. A vibrator in the shower, for instance, can easily become part of your morning or evening routine.
Stimulate Your Largest Sexual Organ 🧠
Your brain is the ultimate pleasure organ. Feed it. Read sex-positive blogs, watch, read, or listen to erotic content that excites you, or explore expert advice on how your body works. Each small deposit into your Pleasure Bank — learning, exploring, noticing — builds confidence and connection with yourself.
Pre-pleasure Rituals 🙌
Sometimes it’s not about rushing to climax but priming yourself to feel good. Here are a few ways to ease into your solo pleasure sessions:
Massage: Touch yourself or use oils to explore your body. Activate your nerve endings and blood flow before moving to more direct stimulation.
Sensual Soak: Swap your usual shower for a slow, indulgent bath. Relax your muscles, relieve tension, and let your mind wander toward pleasure.
Warm-up play: Stretch, move, or lightly dance. This increases circulation, awakens your body, and sets the stage for more satisfying solo play.
Little Teasers: Sext yourself, leave yourself notes, or send playful messages to a partner. Spread pleasure into your day, prime your body, and build desire in bite-sized bursts.
Your Pleasure, Your Rules ❤️🔥
Solo sex isn’t selfish — it’s self-investment. It’s a way to know your body, explore what excites you, and reclaim time that’s all yours. The key is showing up consistently, intentionally, and without shame.
Still looking for ways to lose yourself in pleasure? Explore our favourite Max Black picks here and make your solo sessions even more decadent.
